This blog is attempting to do a first-of-its kind thing: to start a forum to talk about a kind of faith that doesn’t get much press, but which some folks think might be at the center of whatever faith best serves where the Western world is headed.
Stage 4 faith (I’ll give you a definition in just a moment) is doing its best to be the kind of transforming faith in Jesus that has been at the heart of living faith since New Testament times. But, for many people, it feels very different than a good deal of the faith that gets the most press, from either the right or the left.
We’re co-opting the term from a popular psychologist, M. Scott Peck. Peck, now dead, wrote what I’m told is the bestselling book of the ‘80s, The Road Less Traveled. He says that the writing of that book brought him to a faith in Jesus. That said, he remained a freethinker to his death and spoke in ways that continued to unsettle people of faith. (Including me. For those of you who read, say, A World Waiting to be Born, did he seem a little scarily messianic to you?)
But I was hugely helped by a lecture he gave that was included in his collection, Further Along the Road Less Traveled. Having entered faith from aggressive atheism, I found myself baffled by my experience as I visited churches. On the one hand, they seemed to be talking about this faith I’d discovered. On the other hand, they were talking about things that seemed, to me, to be peripheral at best. What was I missing?
At this point, I’ll pass on an excerpt from my book Not the Religious Type: Confessions of a Turncoat Atheist. The entire book is concerned with filling out a picture of what Stage 4 faith looks like. But here’s where I introduce the idea.
From chapter 3, “How M. Scott Peck Saved My Life,” in Not the Religious Type: Confessions of a Turncoat Atheist:
In chapter 7, “Spirituality and Human Nature,” Peck talks about an odd thing he’d noticed in his practice. Some patients would begin therapy as deeply troubled, deeply religious people. He’d help them, and—to his mind—part of their clear growth would occur when they’d leave their religion behind. Other patients, just as troubled and then just as helped, would find faith as a result of their work together. What did that mean?
That question agitated Peck into proposing a four-stage theory of human spiritual and emotional development. He proposed that, in a perfect world, our spiritual development would exactly track with our emotional development. But, given our actual world, it rarely works that way. Traumas along the way can stop our growth in an earlier stage, which has implications not only on how we see the world but also in the way we regard other people and the purpose of life.
Peck’s first stage—I’ll call it the criminal stage—corresponds to the toddler years. Toddlers are cute and loving, but in the broader sense, they don’t care about you. They can’t. That’s not the stage they’re at. As they’re throwing a tantrum over a toy they’ve been denied, toddlers rarely stop themselves to say, “But you know, this isn’t the most important thing in the world, and I haven’t once asked how you’re doing, Daddy. Has it been a good day?”
You could make the case that people who get stuck in the criminal stage are often best served by two institutions: jail and the boardroom. Jail for obvious reasons. In stage 1, our lives are chaotic, which can feel horrifying. Without boundaries (something provided by good parents), we just grab for whatever we can get. Jail is the ultimate boundary, which explains why some criminals can be model prisoners, but when they’re released, they go on an immediate crime spree and get thrown—to everyone’s relief—back into jail.
But high-functioning stage 1 folks can often be quite effective businesspeople (or politicians or, God forbid, pastors), because they’re relentlessly focused on winning, on getting what they want, whatever it takes.
On the spiritual front, these would often be the addicts and criminals, folks who find God after hitting bottom.
We might call stage 2 rules-based. This would correspond to age six or seven. Now you care what Mommy and Daddy think, what they want, what the rules are. My oldest son had a memorable transition to stage 2 even as his younger brother was firmly in stage 1. My wife, Grace, and I are occasionally in quite expressive spiritual circles, which means that we’ve been in worship meetings where folks would, say, prostrate themselves, lift their hands, or even dance. Our oldest would survey the crowd to see whatever the appropriate behavior was and then he’d warily imitate it. Meanwhile, his brother would be taking laps around the room or heading for the stairs to the stage. The oldest would try to maintain whatever pose he’d taken while, through the corner of his mouth, spitting out his brother’s name, trying to get him to shape up. Finally we’d say to him, “That’s not your job. We’re the parents here. We’ll take care of it.” And he’d shoot us a look to the effect of, “Evidently not very well!” Stage 2.
Two institutions might best serve stage 2: the military and the church. The military, again, for obvious reasons. It has famously been a transitional institution for people coming from chaotic backgrounds. It’s where they find discipline and boundaries. But it was the church part that grabbed my attention. Peck argues that most churches are stage 2. They exist to tell people the rules, to set the boundaries of life.
He takes great pains not to judge this. He emphasizes that whatever spiritual things happen at these churches are undoubtedly completely real and that, to his mind, the teachings there are effectively true. The heart and soul of America and most countries are right here in stage 2. These are the good people who get things done and raise strong families. The larger point rests, rather, in how this and other stages interact with each other. So let’s go on for a moment.
Stage 3 could be described as rebellious. This corresponds to the teen years. At this stage, the healthy kid begins to question the rules she has been taught in stage 2. Why are they the be-all and end-all? What’s behind these rules? Often the answers the teen gets are not convincing, particularly if the world around her is stage 2. Then she’s most likely to hear, “Quit being such a smart aleck!” and not much more. This often hardens the teen into stage 3, and the wars begin between her and all things stage 2.
The institution that seems best to support stage 3 is the university. Periodically we hear cries of alarm from conservative circles that universities are monolithically liberal. And according to Peck’s theory, of course that’s true and always will be true. Universities are filled with eighteen- to twenty-one-year-olds, who—as a group—are transitioning into stage 3.
Whole societies, at the broadest level, can also reflect these stages. So, stereotypically at least, the Bible Belt might reflect Stage 2. And, meaningfully to me, Cambridge, Massachusetts—dominated by universities—would be stage 3 central.
Again, to recap what we have so far:
Stage 1: criminal
Stage 2: rules-based
Stage 3: rebellious
As we said, Peck was most concerned with the way the stages interact with one another. Stage 2 is an important but often embattled stage. On the one hand, in stage 2 religious communities, there’s the assumption that anyone outside of the community is stage 1, a lawbreaker who needs to find God—meaning: to keep the rules of life. Stage 3 is especially threatening to stage 2, because folks in stage 3 are seen as unique kinds of lawbreakers—they’re rebellious libertines!
In this way of thinking—forgive me if I’m offending any political sensibilities, and I’ll happily hastily backtrack if we ever chat about this—the Republican party would be stage 2 and the Democratic party, although perhaps not intuitively, would be a blend of stage 3 and stage 1.
Stage 2 and stage 3 each heap scorn on the other, but there’s a different feel to their scorn. The scorn coming from stage 2 toward stage 3 might be reflected in the use of the word liberal as a self-evidently shameful thing, as so obviously shameful you don’t even have to say why it’s shameful. And on the other side, if you were to take a drive in my city, you’d see hundreds of anti-Republican bumper stickers that all boil down to how obviously idiotic and beneath contempt stage 2 people are, leading one to wonder if the Republicans are standing in for the stage 2 parents of these drivers.
A fascinating and unexpected corollary in Peck’s thinking—central to his experiences with his patients that led to the formulation of his theory in the first place—is the observation that stage 3 is spiritual advancement from stage 2. And yet there’s every possibility that—if you believe in such things—in stage 2 you’ll go to heaven and in stage 3 you’ll go to hell. As the saying goes, stick that in your pipe and smoke it! Peck’s theory explains the contempt stage 3 folks often feel toward the stage 2 faith they’ve left behind, that strange brew that often comes out as something like, “I don’t believe in God, but I’m still more spiritually advanced than you are.”
Now, before going on to Peck’s stage 4, it’s worth qualifying this for a moment. Stage 3 folks are indeed spiritually advanced in one limited sense, but not in all senses. Let’s say a godly, faith-filled, stage 2 seventy-year-old, someone who has given her life to loving God and loving others, was walking through one of Cambridge’s many town squares and ended up in a conversation with some snarky, stage 3, nineteen-year-old. Who is more spiritually advanced? Obviously, in any meaningful sense, it’s the older, godly woman. But Peck’s point is that there is, nonetheless, a sense in which it’s the cocky kid. Hold that thought.
What stage 3 people usually don’t realize is that there is a stage 4, that there actually are answers to the questions they’ve been asking. You might call this the mystical stage. Here, one suddenly realizes that most of the things we were taught in stage 2 are, in fact, true, but in a much richer and more mysterious sense than we would have, or could have, imagined.
So let’s take this spiritual truism from the biblical tradition: “Believe in the Lord Jesus and you will be saved.” Stage 2 reads this as: Okay, as of today at 3 p.m., I did believe in Jesus, so I can take it to the bank that I’m going to heaven, whatever happens. I believe!
Stage 4, on the other hand, might well say: Wow, that’s one profound statement. I think I believe, but what does believe actually mean? Am I believing now? What might that look like? And saved. Saved in some meaningful sense now, or just saved after I die? Paul, after all, says a little later on in the Bible that what matters isn’t any outward religious thing we do (circumcision, for instance) but a transformed life, a life that’s being saved. Is my life being transformed by my belief? (Or perhaps it’s not the belief that’s transforming me but Jesus himself, in some sort of direct, mystical sense.) Wow! How?
You can see that stage 4 (mystical) is a stage filled with uncertainty to the same degree that stage 2 (rules-based) is, by definition, filled with certainty. Or, to put it differently, stage 4 is about questions; stage 2 is about answers. In this way of thinking, stage 2 looks at truth from the outside, as if it were a book that can and must be mastered. Stage 4 looks at truth from smack-dab in the middle of it, as if truth is everywhere and will take a lifetime just to begin to traverse (which is the joy of it).
Stage 2 folks tend to look at stage 4 folks with profound suspicion: They seem to be saying the same stuff, but every word out of their mouths is slippery. Why won’t they just “stand on the truth”? What kind of tap-dancing cowards are these people?
If there’s anything to this theory of Peck’s, perhaps you’ve guessed how it saved my life. I entered faith from stage 3. So when I went to resolutely stage 2 churches, I was baffled. It wasn’t that I disagreed with anything they were saying (even though, from what I understood, I often did disagree with some of what they were saying); I rather wondered why these things were worth saying at all. The things they talked about struck me as heady, as abstractions that I perhaps didn’t have any quarrel with, but I kept waiting for them to tell me something that would call me into the profound but hopeful and life-changing mystery that I seemed to be entering. Instead, I found their whole purpose was to remove all mystery, as if mystery were the enemy and certainty were what we were looking for.
Perhaps you’ll have guessed, as well, why so many Cambridge folks have found this stage 4 approach to be so significant. Many great people have been commissioned by vibrant, Bible Belt churches to come here and start a new church in the heart of paganism. These churches are often faith filled, but they almost always stay quite small. If Peck is right, stage 2, by definition, cannot reach those in stage 3. Stage 3 people, rightly, are never going back. We often meet folks who grew up in stage 2 churches, who led youth groups there, and who then went to college (that home of stage 3) and lost their faith. When they find their way back with us, what they realize is that—to their surprise—they never quit believing in God. What they quit believing in was stage 2.
(Schmelzer, David. "How M. Scott Peck Saved My Life." Not The Religious Type, Confessions of a Turncoat Atheist. Carroll Stream, IL: SaltRiver, 2008. 18-25. Used by permission, Tyndale House Publishers. All rights reserved.)